The lopsided breakup is the epitome of parting in a relationship.
If you’re human and you’ve had any kind of relationship in the past, odds are you have experienced a breakup. We all have different experiences, but for me it has mainly been on the receiving end.
This is what I call the “lopsided breakup”. This is where one person is still madly in love with their significant other, but their counterpart is completely done with you being theirs.
The thing about lopsided breakups is they come in an array of flavors from the salty to the expected. One thing is always constant though, it kills the person that is on the recieving end.
It can be very hard to cope with a breakup that was not mutually agreed on. In fact, it can be extremely hard! Countless days are usually spent wondering what exactly it is about yourself that they didn’t like, many hours wondering if you’re even meant to be with anyone in the future, and a handful of times where you curse “the stupid movies lie” under your breath.
Heartbreak is something that will never leave our world, in fact a ton of good can come from it. At the end of the day however, these times in your life are the ones that can sting the most while in the moment.
I remember the way I coped with my lopsided breakup. I got off my butt and rode my bike like I was training for the Tour de France. I rode the shit out of my bike, miles and miles a day just to exert all that sadness and questioning into physical exercise. Did it help? Yes it really did, but it never erased that hurt.
I am someone who believes that when you fall in love with someone for real, it will stick with you beyond any relationship or events that occur between you two. Although I have found comfort and excitement in falling in love again in the future, it is foolish for me or anyone to believe that you can just shove your previous loves out of your brain forever. I say, accept that this is natural and realize that it is okay if this happens to you.
So I said heartbreak can bring a ton of good also… and you probably laughed. I get that, but heartbreak is so valuable for three reasons I think we can both agree on:
Extra time isn’t wasted on an uneven relationship.
Heartbreak gives us time to reflect on all the things we loved in the relationship, and all the things we hated. (This is valuable for the future).
It humbles ourselves.
I hate breakups, hate them with an incredible passion. However, it’s sometimes the quickest way to grow as a better more reverent significant other for your future relationships. I have learned time and time again, and I hope that when the right woman comes along in my life that I won’t have to ever write about this subject again.
Let me know what some of your takeaways from a lopsided breakup have been in the comments below!
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